Category: Being, Becoming.

To love, lose and still be kind

June 19th, 2025

I wrote this 10 months ago (20 August, 2024) and then, my passion for blogging died out. For those that follow me on instagram, I wrote about being me again. I feel like me, again and it has been gruesome. There was so much introspection I had to do as a human being and the light at the end of the tunnel was my envisioned self ablaze. I have found peace in knowing (and accepting) that life happens to everyone and I wish I could be more encouraging.

The last 10 months have been me having to constantly pull myself from under the rubble and I am grateful for that version of me. I have been meaning to write but those words were buried somewhere I could not reach. So much has happened since I have been away and this will be (hopefully) my last very personal post.

I am okay. I can finally say I am okay and not be lying through my teeth. It has taken a minute but I am here. I am present. I am grateful. I am me

I am blank as I write this and only hope that as I string words together, it will all come together and make some sense. I had so much hope for this year and I know it hasn’t ended yet, but it sure feels like it has ended for me.

10 years.

For 10 years, I had a clear vision of what my life trajectory would look like and yes, there have been curve balls and a lot of grief but never have I mourned the lives I could have lived. I have never looked at my life with as much regret as I have in August, and that regret has pierced so many things inside me. I have found myself constantly frustrated, constantly on the verge of tears, and just inches away from completely falling apart.

The universe has been kind, and I have stumbled but never stayed down for too long, but this time feels different.

Maybe it is something in the air, or how reading ‘Artemis Fowl’ doesn’t seem to do the trick anymore. Retail therapy is effing depressing, music is an annoyance I would rather do without and my bookshelf is full of books slowly collecting dust.

This is my second writing of August, and it is incoherent, a rant, and so full of emotion. My life has been falling apart in more ways than I care to count yet some things have stayed constant.

I have felt grief before, but how do I forgive myself for the lives I could have lived? How do I move with the weight of the misfortune of my failed attempts at such lives resting on my shoulders? How do I speak to myself with kindness? Trust myself to carry new dreams and new hopes when I could not carry one this far?

I can’t help but see all the ways I could have done things differently, all the mistakes I made along the way. And in those mistakes, I see my reflection, distorted and unkind. How do you love yourself when all you see are your flaws?

I know that I need to be patient with myself, that healing takes time, but there’s a part of me that’s scared I’ll never get there. That I’ll always carry this weight, this regret, and that it will keep me from ever truly moving forward. It should be unheard of healing from a dream but here we are.

For now, I’m mourning the loss of this dream, of the life I thought I would live. I’m grieving the person I could have been. But I’m also trying to hold on to hope, to the possibility that there’s still a future out there for me, even if it’s not the one I envisioned
500 things for 2025: Part One

December 31st, 2024

I am literally lost for words as I write this because this year had been a lot and nothing at the same time. The highs peaked and the lows almost brought me to my knees, still, a year is a year and we continue to thank God for it all.

At the beginning of every year, I write a list of goals and make a vision board but I want to try something different for 2025. Instead of 25 things for 2025, I am doing 500 things for 2025. 500 moments, experiences, lives lived. I find 25 very limiting and as much as I always try to make SMART goals, I think my time will be better served completing 500 small and random tasks and each will count as a win.

Why 500? 300 looked awkward, anything below that seemed limiting and every about 500 seemed excessive.

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Always, I am thankful for the people that always show up for me on this blog despite my unexplained haitus. So, 500 things for 2025 below:

Travel

I have recently found out I do not have the full traveller spirit in me but I enjoy the experience of new things, peoples and cultures. Like the recent trip I took with my boyfriend and his family, a solid 10/10. I would go into much detail but my mother reads this blog.

Anyways, I have come to the realization that I have not seen much of Blantyre, much less Malawi and this country is my travel bucket list for the year. From conspicious lodges in different parts of this country to its high end hotels, I will be seeing and doing it all, best believe.

Yes, I have been to the Thyolo tea estates but I have never been to Makoli, or the stables or Huntingtons. All places I plan on visiting this coming year. Am I venturing into travel blogging? Big NO.

I had never been to Cape Maclear until December 2024. Same goes for a boat ride, eagle spotting, boat tours. Hell, I had never even seen so many boats in one place. That experience taught me that I am missing out on a lot of things I would love and enjoy.

2025 better buckle up, because I am barrelling through!

Personal Growth

Growth looks very different to everyone, and for me, the definition evolves every year and changes seasonally. This time, I just need to feel more free, more in control of my life and my well being.

Gosh, I love being me but there is so much room for improvement.

I used to sprint but I have not in a while. I actually won medals for it but I do not think my legs could take it now. I thought about it and I am willing to put in the effort to at least try and run a marathon.

Never been much for TED talks but I will not shoot something I have not tried. I want to make that money as I grow hence launching an online course (which will possibly be free) and working intently on being consistent with my passive income.

End of part one:

Catch my instagram for more parts as they come!

Truly, I love you all for your support and all the love you show me. Happiest end of 2024 and beginning of 2025!
xoxo,

The lady with the wildest dream.
Sorry to disappoint – 2024 edition

August 29th, 2024

I remain hopeful for this year, despite fighting for my life these past months!

I have had the chance to do so much reflection this August and have had to readjust my life plan in ways I did not think would be possible in this life. Life has handed me a pair of boxing gloves and shoved me into the ring without any prior warning? Well, let me tell you, life has been beating my ass lately, and I’ve been dodging, weaving, and occasionally getting knocked flat on my back.

There’s something special about rejection letters. They don’t just say “no,” they say, “We see you tried, but not today, pal.” I’ve sent out more applications than I care to admit, and many have come back with headline: “We regret to inform you…” My inbox has basically become a graveyard of dashed hopes and missed chances.

Now, I could sit here and tell you that these rejections don’t sting. I could say that I’m taking it all in stride, that I’ve got it all under control. But the truth is, each “no” is killing me a little. But here’s the thing: every “no” I receive is also a reminder that I’m putting myself out there. Sure, I’m getting metaphorically punched in the gut, but I am trying really hard to look at the brighter side of everything. Emotional calluses—each rejection stings a little less because I’m getting tougher, and I’m learning to take each hit with a little more grace.

As if the rejection letters weren’t enough, anxiety has decided to make itself comfortable in my life, like an uninvited guest who just won’t leave. It’s that nagging voice in the back of my mind whispering, “Are you sure you’re doing enough?” or “What if you’re not good enough?”

Some days, I wish the voices in my head would just pipe down for a little while, and maybe I could figure a thing out or two. Like how I have done nothing to sell you guys “After the clouds, the sun”, and hardcover plans came to a screeching halt. I am trying to stay sane, you guys. That’s the answer to why I haven’t written in a while, why my books are rotting in the drafts, why FLOW has not been very active, why inkspire is taking longer than anticipated, etc. I could rant all day, but I don’t have all day.

sigh.

I need spaces where I can be unapologetically me. I’m talking about places where I can thrive and, just as importantly, be utterly inadequate. Somewhere I can laugh at my own clumsiness, cry over spilled dreams, and then get up and keep moving, bruises and all.

Creating these spaces hasn’t been easy. It’s involved a lot of introspection, some tough conversations, and more than a few false starts. But I’m finding my footing, little by little. I’m learning that it’s okay to be human, to be imperfect, to be a work in progress. And honestly? There’s a strange kind of beauty in that, and I am the luckiest woman to have found a man that actively and intentionally seeks to create such spaces for me.

So, here I am, still in the ring. Life may have gotten in a few good hits, but I’m not down for the count. I’m fighting for my life, my dreams, and my sanity, and I’m doing it with as much grace and humor as I can muster. Some days are better than others, but I’m learning to take it all in stride.

And maybe, just maybe, one of these days, life and I will figure out how to dance without stepping on each other’s toes. But until then, I’ll keep swinging, keep getting up, and keep carving out those spaces where I can just be. Because at the end of the day, I’m not just surviving—I’m living, flaws and all.

With all the love I can muster,

Ms. Myra Trudea Okumu
Letting go of perfect

May 15th, 2024

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”
Dr. Seuss

To: fellow perfectionist ponderers and imperfectly perfect pals!

There is no perfect life or person, no perfect world or love, no perfect smile or situation. There is simply nothing perfect.

Know this and know peace.

Seeking perfection is being a candle that’s burning out on both ends. It is detrimental and will prove to be your biggest enemy. Now, don’t get me wrong. Letting go of perfect doesn’t mean letting go of ambition or striving for excellence. It simply means accepting that life isn’t always going to go according to plan – and that’s okay. In fact, it’s more than okay – it’s liberating.

When you do the inner work (self reflection, meditation, mindfulness and practicing gratitude), you will create a beautiful life on the outside. It doesn’t mean that life will be perfect, it just means you will have the tools to navigate the twists and turns that it brings.

Don’t sabotage something that is meant for you because you think that you are not good enough. If it comes your way, it means it’s meant for you. They say that comparison is the thief of joy, and ain’t that the truth?

Personally, I have no attachment to being remembered as a “good person”. Should I pass on (which I will most certainly do), the only thing I want people to say is that she lived her truth, and yes, I do things that are deemed to be ‘good’, but my highest intention for self is to live a life that makes me happy.

My advice to you is, let go of whatever attachment you have to a label or role if it is causing you to behave in a way that does not serve you. ‘The good person’, ‘the strong one, ‘the perfect one’, ‘the understanding one’, ‘the non-confrontational one’; let it all go. You have carried this around with you for long enough.

Your best will never seem like it’s good enough, when you are giving it in an environment that does not allow you to thrive. And those toxic relationships/environments will never allow you to fully perceive yourself as good enough or worthy.

You have to unpack and heal the experiences that made you believe that you are not worthy. And yes, I have certain values that I live by. However, I am not held hostage or limited by people’s perception of me. Being myself is enough for me.

Doing well in life isn’t always about being perfect. It is also about how you handle some of the experiences life throws in your direction.

You were not given this life (by chance or otherwise) to be perfect, you were simpy called a live a full human life. The human experience is ever changing, it has highs, it has lows, sometimes you will not want to be a part of it, but joy will eventually come, it will call you from your corner, remember to answer when it does.

P.S. You do not have to be perfect to be loved, cared for, respected or appreciated.

With all my heart(still),

The dreamer.✨🤍
Quarter life crisis averted!

May 8th, 2024

Purpose is heartfelt, benevolent, and personally meaningful to you. It’s a state of being that you desire for yourself, yet you recognize its importance in the world, and you want it for others too.
Karen Whitten

The quarter-life crisis: that moment when I realized adulthood isn’t all it’s cracked up to be (the training wheels of life having been unceremoniously yanked away), and I was left wondering if I missed the memo on how to adult properly or I was just skipped in the circulation all together.

It was waking up one day and realizing that the plan I thought I had for my life was actually just a crumpled, beverage-stained napkin with some vague scribbles on it done by someone (me) who had no idea what they were doing.

For the first time in my life, I was faced with a list of existential questions that hit harder than that first shot of gin.

I was sitting in my house, surrounded by unfinished writings, endless unanswered emails, publishing quotations, unanalysed documents and bills, and wondering if that is what I actually signed up for. I was questioning every decision I had ever made – from my choice to pursue my career to your latest newspaper submission.

Social media did not help.

I would be scrolling through Instagram and LinkedIn and see people getting married, buying houses, going on vacation, living their (supposed) best lives, nailing every goal on my list and having babies, while I can barely remember to water my small garden (RIP, yellow peppers), drink water (sorry, babe) and the only thing I’ve managed to commit to is my Netflix (which my uncle pays for) and Spotify subscriptions.

I felt (infinitely) trapped, (divinely) uninspired and (comically) disillusioned.

I can’t believe it is a phase of life often dismissed as a myth or exaggerated melodrama and I brushed it off at first, attributing it to burnout or temporary dissatisfaction with the trajectory of my life.

I am a person that is blessed in more ways than one and that was why I felt that I had no reason to be struggling because these years are supposed to be fun and relatively easy. Your 20s (they say) are supposed to be filled with joy and excitement and discovering new things and yourself.

But things were falling apart all around me and I felt like I had made the discovery and lost it, somehow.

I felt disconnected from other people, and even though I knew I was spiralling, I approached the situation with a sense of apathy that made it difficult to find the motivation to change or try to make things better.

Even for the things I did (with so much struggle) manage to get done, I was not experiencing milestones, or achievements. More like just living through them or watching them in third person.

I forget to offer myself grace. I forget to forgive myself for my shortcomings and for all the things that do not make sense.

As a 22 year old living a full life, I am still figuring out what I like, want, and find fulfilling. It is cruel of me to think I am not doing enough when I am constantly trying to make and build a better life for me and the people I love.

I am allowed mistakes and options, so it’s OK to try things and decide that they are not right for me.

Comparison may be a natural tendency for most of us, but it can truly be the thief of joy. It’s hard not to look around and feel like perhaps everyone has their lives more together than you. Or they are luckier. Or life is unfair for not rewarding your efforts.

But we don’t have the same 24 hours and we can only do our very best. There will always be someone doing better.

“What do you want to be when you grow up?”

Me? A superstar!

I may already be grown up in some ways, but I probably have many decades of life and marvellous stories ahead. And that means I have time to carve new destiny paths and define what I want my life to look like. A loving husband, bestsellers, a garden, bottomless brunches, a luxurious life.

The key to surviving a quarter-life crisis (to all those currently wallowing in one) lies in being kind to yourself and being proactive. Best believe, they will feel like the worst days in the last decade but you will get through it.

Don’t beat yourself up because you aren’t where you thought you’d be, or because everyone seems to be doing so much better than you.

When you feel anxiety creeping up, try to slow down your thoughts.

Breathe. You are not Atlas, the weight of the world does not rest on your shoulders.

The world will not stop spinning because you stopped pushing it.

Pull out your list of goals and review it—this can help center you and remind you that you are indeed making progress.

Write down every small win to look back at on the seemingly endless days of self-battle.

Despite bumps in the road, you will survive this and make it out alive on the other side. You got this!

🤍⛅️

The girl who survived a quarter life crisis.
Life Audit 2023/24

February 16th, 2024

“What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it.”
Oprah Winfrey

Last year was all I envisioned and more and it’s all because I took the time to sit down and figure out what was and wasn’t working for me in my life, what I actually wanted (not what I was conditioned to believe I wanted), and built a MF plan around how to make it happen.

I did not have a 10/10 year but I was focused on making/building my dream life. My vision board manifested and mid-year, I had to go back to the drawing board and makes new goals!

While there is that rush to get everything done and to get your life to gather, remember you’ve got a whole lifetime to achieve your best life. All of the things DO NOT need to get done tomorrow, next week, or next year (although, if you’re anything like me, your brain will certainly try to convince you otherwise… That’s the road to overwhelm, frustration, burn out, and failure… don’t take it!)

Let’s get into my 2023 life audit, see what’s working and what can be improved:

Mental health

Rating: 3.5 out of 5.

The only reason my mental health did not make 5 stars is because I hit a wall at the end of last year. As devastating as that was, I managed to pick myself up and “rebuild” my safe spaces. I am doing fine, thank you!

Physical health

Rating: 4 out of 5.

Do you remember when I tried the gym? Yeah, that did not work out😂. Sigh. Otherwise, I am healthy (again, my physical health took a dive in December because of anemia. Yikes.)

Family

Rating: 4 out of 5.

My family is doing great and the problematic members stay being problematic. Overall, it’s great and I am not complaining at all. If I have learned anything in these past two years, it could literally be worse.

Hobbies and creativity

Rating: 3.5 out of 5.

I am writing, aren’t I? You can still catch me on The Weekend Nation’s Thoughts of a millennial column, still giving my best pointers and unsolicited advice to this life thing. My book is still undergoing the processes of publication but God can forbid we pass June without hitting the shelves.

I have a garden now, and grew some maize in my backyard! Planning on taking this garden thing slightly serious and having vegetables to gift people. Sounds silly but that’s the dream.

I also took up painting, and cocktail making. Good luck to me!

Learning and personal growth

Rating: 2.5 out of 5.

Duolingo has become friend and partner as I relearn French and also dabble in Swahili. I tried Arabic but I got so frustrated with myself that I just dropped it, I swear. My attention span does not allow for such stresses, y’know?

I need more certificates and I think a Masters would look great for me. Imagine, Myra Trudea Okumu BSc. MSc (hopefully phD).

Career

Rating: 2.5 out of 5.

Another New Year’s resolution is to take every aspect of being a Microbiologist seriously. Reading more journals, attending trainings and conferences, all that.

Did I mention how I find my field of study so interesting and fascinating? Yes, I do. And I want to advance in it, this degree has given enough. It’s time for bigger fish, don’t you think?

Business

Rating: 3 out of 5.

The plan for 2023/24 was to bring back srunchies and I am working on it! Promise! Everything else is doing great and we are expanding our reach to other fields/areas. Wish me some extra madness to convince myself I can have everything I want!💕

Adventure and travel

Rating: 0.5 out of 5.

I literally have nothing to tell you guys in this, sorry. I was home the whole time. I will do better in 2024, hopefully!

Home and environment

Rating: 2.5 out of 5.

Remember how I moved out and decided to be independent? I have news…it is everything it is professed to be and more! Does it get challenging? Yes, a lot. Would I have it any other way? Yes, with more money lol.

Still building my safe haven and paradise on Earth. The painting station, the bookshelf, the photo walls, all of it! A home tour in June on my YouTube channel? I would love to!

Finances

Rating: 2.5 out of 5.

Can we skip this?

I don’t want to talk about it. I am doing everything I can to reach a certain goal and until I do, I will refrain from this topic.

💕My level 10 life

My level 10 life means I have alot of good days, surrounded by the man I love and the people I love. I am making enough to live very comfortably in absolute luxury. In my level 10 life, I do what makes me happy.

Note: this is not how to manifest your level 10 life. Go into more detail and be very specific about everything you see yourself doing. What do you do on a daily? What are your hobbies and interests? How much are you earning? How often do you travel? Be very specific and set your lifestyle accordingly to lean towards that particular future.

Go big! Do not limit yourself or think anything is impossible!

“Ignore the glass ceiling and do your work. If you’re focusing on the glass ceiling, focusing on what you don’t have, focusing on the limitations, then you will be limited.”
Ava Duvernay

The key to an extraordinary life is dreaming big, not holding back or judging yourself for what you want or don’t want.

Don’t worry about how you’d go about making it happen. Just give yourself the space to get really clear on what your perfect year would entail.

Your goals and desires are going to evolve as you grow personally and professionally. Different seasons of life will call you to focus on different things.

Make sure the life audit isn’t something you do once and forget about. Revisit what you’ve written on a weekly basis to put you in the energy of achieving it. Go through the whole process again next year! See what’s changed, where you’ve seen the most improvement, and how your level 10 life is evolving.

💕💕💕

Love,

The biggest dreamer.
When in doubt, cry.

February 9th, 2024

When in doubt, remind yourself that you have been through more than your fair share, refrain from comparing yourself to others and cry!

I used to hate crying, oh my word! I thought it was such a time consuming and unnecessary activity to partake in and kept on going on with my days. I did not realise I was bottling up so much emotion, anger, sadness and frustration until it all came down at once. The actual pits!

Crying, I have learned, is so therapeutic and my pillow has stories for days. When I feel anxious about something I am doing or I am supposed to do, I let out more than a few salty streams and do it anyways. Doubt can try and stop me another day.

I realised (about doubt) that much of the self-doubt that we have been carrying is not even ours, it is just projections of how other people feel about us. From a snark comment someone made, a passing remark about our capabilities and our ability, or the way our ideas/dreams are described as heavy, daunting or even impossible.

“Don’t let them make you doubt yourself. All the greatest visionaries in history have been told they were insane at some point.”
Michele Jaffe

All this burden, all this luggage we carry around with us, day in and day out, is not even ours!

When in doubt (read imposter syndrome), it is always good to remind yourself that you are already in the room, and you’re there because you deserve to be there. You put in the work, the discipline and the courage, do not let self-doubt convince you otherwise. While there, open doors, build longer tables and invite people that share the vision!

Procrastination tip: Do it before the self doubt creeps in.

My 2024 has taught me never to compromise on my truth, no matter if it leads to broken or strained relationships with the people around me, and to validate my own experiences even when others try to make me doubt myself. I will cry it out and keep moving, always! My delusional self-belief is the difference between me and the Pearly Gates, believe me.

If you constantly compare yourself to others, nothing you do will ever be good enough cause there is always going to be someone better than you: better money, better car, better education, better job, better opportunities. Compare your progress to where you used to be, in your own lane. Measure where you are in relations to your own goals.

“There is in every madman a misunderstood genius whose idea, shining in his head, frightened people, and for whom delirium was the only solution to the strangulation that life had prepared for him.”
~ Antonin Artaud

Throughout the remainder of this week, pay attention to what your gut is telling you. If it tells you to call that person, they can help you, do so; if it tells you, “send that email,” do it. Keep uncertainty from setting in. Simply acknowledge your intuition —it has gotten you this far—and notice what happens.

You are on the right track, don’t let people fill your mind with doubt.

With all my love, still.
7 days of gratitude

February 6th, 2024

How often do you stop to appreciate the good things in your life? Like really affirm to yourself that bad days happen but it is not entirely a bad life?

The things that went well and beyond your expectations, the people who made you smile/laugh, or the food that tasted delicious?

It’s often those little insignificant things, the simple things, the funny things that slip right by and go unnoticed.

It can be all too easy to focus on what’s not going well in our days or life that we miss all the good stuff that’s right there in front of us.

I don't even know where to begin being thankful to God for making me. Exactly the way I am.

Gratitude.
— ️Ms. Myra Trudea Okumu (@myraokumu) April 13, 2022

Negative bias stops us from seeing the good stuff right in front of us, no matter how much good there is to be seen.

Gratitude isn’t about ignoring or avoiding your problems or challenges. It’s about giving you a more balanced perspective on life. Yes, bad things happen all the time but good things are surplus too!

Sometimes I hate this era of my life and sometimes good things happen and I am content. Always, I am grateful.
— ️Ms. Myra Trudea Okumu (@myraokumu) September 16, 2022

I am incredibly grateful for the ability to revisit memories and things for which I should feel thankful when I am feeling like the world is conspiring against me and I cannot deal with it anymore. I still cling to them. They manage to calm and move me.

Here is 5 things I am grateful for in 2024:

1. Mi familia

I do not appreciate my support system enough for all the supporting they do; all the lifting and uplifting. I wonder what it is like for them to have an overachiever for a daughter or granddaughter, the constant dramas and non-existent potential problems fuelled by anxiety. I am so grateful for my biggest believers and cheerleaders and this is the thank you for being the exceptional people you are.

Yes. I am nothing without their love.

My parents have never ever told me to stop writing and focus on school. They always trusted me to find my balance and I am immensely grateful for that.
— ️Ms. Myra Trudea Okumu (@myraokumu) August 3, 2022

2. Writing!

Whew! I would not survive this life, unfortunately. I rely so much on my writing to get me through every and all situations. I am grateful for the gift of stories, really.

I write about anything I can form a compound idea around, and that is how I have made it this far off. I grieve in my words, smile in my faceless characters and I have lived vicariously through my stories.

Writing chose me!

Recieving news about things I wrote down for myself has me speechless and grateful for chance.
— ️Ms. Myra Trudea Okumu (@myraokumu) January 20, 2023

3. Being a microbiologist!

I actually like my job, believe it. Above the fact that it keeps a roof over my head and puts food on the table, my job allows me a life. It is interesting too and requires a certain train of thought, and I cannot see myself in another profession that is not somehow related to microbiology. To think there was a times I had no idea what a microbiologist was or what they did!

You live, you learn.

4. My mistakes

I know that is a weird thing to say but I look at my past failures, poor decisions and mistakes with grace. I have learned so much from them and everyday, I continue to learn just how much they have shaped me as a person, a friend and as a partner.

Everything happens for a reason and no truer words have been spoken since. There are certain things that cannot be done no matter how hard we try. I am human, things go wrong and are thrown to chance. Failing is part of my human experience.

I am grateful for my previous shortcomings, they all led to the person I am now and boy am I thankful!

In May, I am betting on myself.
Let her grow, let her fail, let her try again.
— ️Ms. Myra Trudea Okumu (@myraokumu) April 27, 2022

5. The muse that is love

Much of the world revolves around the people and things we love, down to how to perceive the world.

Love has started and ended wars, fuelled revolutions and permanently altered the course of humanity.

Love swallows me whole.

And not just romantic love, no. Love for my passions no matter how short lived, for the way I see things, for friendships that become anchors, for this life that does not go beyond 100 and for little laughs I share with the people I love.

I love. Without restrictions, hesitation or fear, no matter how charged with punishment love is. There will always be room for love in my life.

And this comes from my recent realisation that no one is meant to do this life alone!❤️

No but this is by far my softest era. Thank you to the one that showed me my worth and made me realise that I need to appreciate and love myself more.✨
— ️Ms. Myra Trudea Okumu (@myraokumu) March 31, 2023

Make a habit of giving thanks for the good things you have in front of you , and the better things that are coming your way. It makes all the difference, I promise.

I am certainly proud of myself for how far I have come as a person, but I still know there is a lot of room for growth. What I have done so far is good and has served many purposes but I can always be better. So I pat myself on the back along the way, but I keep going, keep looking for spaces that foster and allow growth.

If you knew me back in the day, I’m proud to say that person doesn’t exist anymore.

Remember to give yourself credit for your non-material accomplishments, such as your character development, self-awareness and clarity, boundary-setting skills, and sense of self-acceptance, when you think back on what you wanted and what you have achieved.

I encourage people to write down the little things they are grateful for everyday. The small wins to look back on when life is if dealing you hard cards.
— ️Ms. Myra Trudea Okumu (@myraokumu) September 17, 2022

Manifestation tip🕯️🪔:

Express gratitude for what you want as though you already have it.

You can be thankful of certain aspects of your life and yet feel worn out, frustrated, let down, or any other sentiment. Gratitude as well as emotions can coexist; you don’t have any obligation to hide what you’re feeling in an effort to stay positive.

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With Love,

✨The embodiment of multicoloured dreams✨
— ️Ms. Myra Trudea Okumu (@myraokumu) March 31, 2023
24 things for 2024

January 18th, 2024
Dedicated to Yewo Mzembe.

A new year is the symbol of hope, light, and hard-core determination to do great things. It’s the time of year when everyone strives to do better in life and of course, be delusional about how the year is going to go. Don’t worry, we support delusion here!

The best way to make this year all about growth and achievements is to set resolutions for yourself. Ask yourself, “The year is 2025, what did I do in 2024 that has got me here–the place you aspire be?”

By doing so, you hold yourself accountable. You also get motivated to see your goals through till the end.

While you might be all pumped up about making 2024 the best year of your life, it’d do you well to focus on your overall well-being. Self-care will never let you down, that is a promise.

The joys of January. New year, new possibilities. Everyone is bursting with productive energies, making plans, setting up challenges, and writing resolutions. If only this blissful state could survive the first couple of weeks back at school/work and the long, dark winter nights. But sometimes we lose track of the goals we set, the many amazing adventures we envisioned for the new year and quickly settle back into our everyday routines.

We may rediscover that ambitious and exciting list of New Year plans sometime in the summer, but those fresh energies are already gone, so the goals list goes back into the drawer. Been there, done that. And of course, it’s silly, as it’s never too late to change things.

For me, the best way to ensure that I do not lose sight of my goals, or of the things I want to do is planning, organizing, and constant tracking. Yes, while I do like spontaneity to some degree, it IS a quite low degree – I much, much prefer planning everything in advance when it comes to the major areas of life (at least the things I have power over).

My system is a mix of big dreams, budgets, bucket lists, yearly goals and monthly plans. Ask around, I plan ALOT and I make list upon list. It keeps me accountable and organized. I believe in gradual improvement and breaking your goals into actionable steps.

Habits are hard to step into and get used to.

Set a goal and then work backwards by listing the steps you should make towards the goal!

Helpful tips for setting actionable tasks:
- Make sure that every goal you set has actionable steps that you can know you are definitely taking.
- Also make sure that the goals are measurable. So you can see your progress and know if you have successfully completed the goal. It would not hurt to also set milestones between now and the end goal; not only are they going to motivate you but they are a sign of progress.
- Keep your monthly goals list visible so that you can have daily motivation and inspiration to keep working on them. If you can pin a printed version somewhere, extra points!
- Be realistic about the amount of time you really have in the month to complete your goals. Are they even goals that can be completed in a month or a year?
- Always be patient with yourself if you don’t hit a goal by it’s deadline. It’s so much better to have tried and missed than to have not tried at all.
- But also don’t underestimate yourself- you are capable of achieving incredible things!
Every last of the every month, go through your calendar/monthly goals/monthly to do list and cross out all the things you managed to do. Revisit your vision board, restrategize, make amends where necessary and plan your next month. Before you know it, you are actively crossing out so many things off your list and the year is progressing nicely!

Tip: You can use a binder or journal to keep track.

Love,

The biggest supporter of delusional dreaming.

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2024 life board

January 10th, 2024

I am INVESTING in myself this year in every possible way you can imagine! Let’s begin there and the rest of my ‘ridiculous’ plans will make sense.

It’s incredible how many of us forget to include ourselves on our list of priorities. Or, on a list of any kind for that matter. I made the 2023 list and stuck to it with my chest and I saw monumental changes in different aspects of my life, and it also allowed me to fine tune on all the things I missed out or overlooked.

I took a face-first nose-dive into this hard lesson this previous year.

Time was one of my favourite excuses.

You know, the good ole’: “I just have too much going on right now (which I did, by the way).” But, I recently made a pretty big 180 in my life and there is time aplenty when I schedule myself right.

The best and most important thing you can do for yourself is deciding what the vision you have for your life looks like. What does successful you do, what does she look like, what does her day encompass, what does she prioritise or love.

I have two vision boards set for this year and they may not look like much but to me, they are everything:

1. The first one is for new closet, new shoes, gym?, new car, more books, conferences, more accessories, more travel!

2. The second board is for more money, successful businesses, vlogging equipment, book launch, perfume collection, more projects, more water.

2023 was an amazing year for my vision board and I nailed most, if not all, of my goals. Because of that, I had to make a completely new board mid year and I have saved myself the trouble by making two from get-go.

Everything I have achieved, I want to maintain and multiply. Everything I started, I wanted to overdeliver and finish. Everything I want, I want more.

I truly believe in myself and my ability to make my dreams come true and to make my life easier and more beautiful and maybe, even happier. Dreams keep us alive and give us something to think about and look forward to, they are the hope that make this world worth experiencing.

I’m a big yearly goal setter, and all throughout the year I think about ways I want to challenge myself or grow in the following one – but every end of December and beginning of January, like clockwork, it’s like all those good ideas disappear from my brain and I can’t remember where lto start. 2023 changed that for me and I am simply carrying it forward.

Every now and the , I’m struck by the realization that life is extensive and I am still very young, and there are numerous wonderful experiences yet to unfold and be felt by me– from exploring new places and savoring diverse cuisines to meeting interesting people, embracing love, acquiring new skills, and reveling in hearty laughter.

It is always a fulfilling reminder, like a hug telling me to calm down and enjoy the moments. So much to look forward to, my loves🤍

How did your 2023 go? Have you already set goals for this year? Let me know in the comments!❤️

Love always,

The girl with delusions of grandeur!❤️‍🔥