When in doubt, remind yourself that you have been through more than your fair share, refrain from comparing yourself to others and cry!

I used to hate crying, oh my word! I thought it was such a time consuming and unnecessary activity to partake in and kept on going on with my days. I did not realise I was bottling up so much emotion, anger, sadness and frustration until it all came down at once. The actual pits!

Crying, I have learned, is so therapeutic and my pillow has stories for days. When I feel anxious about something I am doing or I am supposed to do, I let out more than a few salty streams and do it anyways. Doubt can try and stop me another day.

I realised (about doubt) that much of the self-doubt that we have been carrying is not even ours, it is just projections of how other people feel about us. From a snark comment someone made, a passing remark about our capabilities and our ability, or the way our ideas/dreams are described as heavy, daunting or even impossible.

“Don’t let them make you doubt yourself. All the greatest visionaries in history have been told they were insane at some point.”

Michele Jaffe

All this burden, all this luggage we carry around with us, day in and day out, is not even ours!

When in doubt (read imposter syndrome), it is always good to remind yourself that you are already in the room, and you’re there because you deserve to be there. You put in the work, the discipline and the courage, do not let self-doubt convince you otherwise. While there, open doors, build longer tables and invite people that share the vision!

Procrastination tip: Do it before the self doubt creeps in.

My 2024 has taught me never to compromise on my truth, no matter if it leads to broken or strained relationships with the people around me, and to validate my own experiences even when others try to make me doubt myself. I will cry it out and keep moving, always! My delusional self-belief is the difference between me and the Pearly Gates, believe me.

If you constantly compare yourself to others, nothing you do will ever be good enough cause there is always going to be someone better than you: better money, better car, better education, better job, better opportunities. Compare your progress to where you used to be, in your own lane. Measure where you are in relations to your own goals.

“There is in every madman a misunderstood genius whose idea, shining in his head, frightened people, and for whom delirium was the only solution to the strangulation that life had prepared for him.”

~ Antonin Artaud

Throughout the remainder of this week, pay attention to what your gut is telling you. If it tells you to call that person, they can help you, do so; if it tells you, “send that email,” do it. Keep uncertainty from setting in. Simply acknowledge your intuition —it has gotten you this far—and notice what happens.

You are on the right track, don’t let people fill your mind with doubt.

With all my love, still.